Breaking the War habit

It seems that War is inevitable, and the skies certainly reflect the difficult times. Astrologers and others are taking bets as to when the war will start… But let us back up a bit and examine why we have wars and how to prevent them.

There are, of course, many reasons to wage war. The same war can be explained many different ways, and more than one of them can be the right reason for the war, because the rationale depends upon the perspective from which you view the event.

So what about the late winter and spring of 2003? What is going on? It is not a surprise that the ongoing aspects, especially the long-lasting Pluto-Saturn opposition, bring out polarities and marked fervor over religion and cultural heritage. Here are some of the reasons war is likely now. Individually we are not so highly evolved that we can resolve strongly differing views without violence. The bulk of humans are not able to disagree and stand back from conflict. We are enjoying being righteous and joining sides for and against the war, which is guaranteed to perpetuate the situation. The media have drummed up support for war. Our habits have made us too dependent upon petroleum and created a situation that causes conflict with Iraq as well as the other petroleum producing states. Because of our dependence upon oil, we have ignored and overlooked our responsibilities for improving the lives of people around the world. We have instead allowed tyrants unencumbered rights to enslave their own people through perpetuating their ignorance, crippling economies that should have allowed better conditions, and allowing rulers to use violence against their people. 

How can we break this cycle? The answer calls for individual work and for cultural and social change in all the countries of the world. The answer is one that is difficult to enact and one that may not happen this time. But we can start to become smart about war and how to prevent it, right?

Let’s start with the easy steps to preventing war: individual actions. You can, and need to work on your spiritual development, as your input is part of the whole. When you have peace in your heart, you contribute peace to others. How do you get to that radiance of being? Step by step, following a system of spiritual development that includes meditation and most likely prayer and spiritual counseling or psychotherapy. But there are other, more practical steps you also can take to make war less likely. First, strange as it may seem, your physical health is also important, since your healthy physical body allows your spirit to develop and also allows you to fully contribute in society. So begin my being physically healthy. You know what you need to do, proceed to do it.

Other personal decisions you can make include making less use of oil. If you drive, use an economical, high miles per gallon, car and arrange your life so that you don’t do all that much driving. Perhaps you could walk to work, or use public transportation? Perhaps when it is time to locate a new residence, you relocate closer to your job instead of farther away.

You also can contribute to a peaceful world by being non-committal when others try to engage you in a strong pro-war or anti-war position. Both of the extremes are polarizing and serve to perpetuate conflict.

Socially, people in the developed countries have many options as well. We can encourage public conversation about Iraq. We can speak about the value of human life in the entire world. We can encourage an exploration of what is good about the Arabs and their culture, rather than holding on to the idea that most are terrorists. We can work to have a strong economy in each country, as prosperous and satisfied people usually aren’t looking for fights. We can work to reduce our dependence on (relatively scarce) raw materials, such as petroleum, which have to be obtained from other countries. We can support more trade around the world, not less, and encourage the free flow of information about the social, political and economic rights of citizens in the industrialized west. We can strongly support secular education systems worldwide, in the hope that separating education from religion will lessen conflict. Finally the rich countries of the world can be more generous with their wealth and knowledge, so that all benefit. Truly, we are all in this together, and together we can find a way to break the war habit.

Body Language

Lips

Lips that are held apart, constantly open, indicate a regular chatterbox who is not really bothered about society or situations. They just cruise their way ahead.

If a person has tightly closed lips, then he or she is very courageous. The person also has little time for frivolities of life, and lacks a sense of humour, but is reliable in an emergency.

Shape of lips

Thick lips: Yes, you guessed it. The sensual person. Ardent in passion and sincere in affections, they have a tendency to go overboard with their feelings. Only a lazily awakened conscience prevents them from devoting themselves almost entirely to pleasure.

Protruding lower lips: The person is bound to be fond of the delights of the table. A great listener and just the person you need to pour all your troubles, but beyond that they are of little help for they lack in decision.

Overhanging upper lip: The person is retiring in nature, but likes the company of boisterous crowd.

Eyebrows

Spacing of eyebrows

Very little space between brows is supposed to denote a suspicious nature, perhaps even a dishonest one. Well spaced brows in a person means he/she is frank.

Shape of eyebrows

Gently curving brows is considered a sign of tenderness and the person is supposed to be artistic. Brows, which have a high curve, bringing the crest to some distance from the eyes, tend to signify weakness and indecision.

When the eyebrows are very low and lack a curve, it indicates determination. Brows, which droop at the outer ends, bespeak a will that is not very strong, but a very good taste and a sympathetic understanding of the faults of others. Thick straight eyebrows signify practical nature and a firm will to accomplish every goal. Uneven, bushy eyebrows are the mark of the person whose ways are untidy and whose personality is rather unstable. But such a person is remarkably clever and can influence others through the sheer brilliance of his/her thinking.

Build

Thin

They are also known as intellectual type especially if they have a large head, with a wide forehead. The face is small and has a thin nose, delicately carved features, and a pointed chin. The body is slender and slight and quite often frail. Shoulders are narrow and sloping, arms rather long and thin, fingers long and pointed.

These people are extremely active mentally, but they lack vitality and are inclined to be lazy. They are cold and impersonal in their dealings with other people and do not mix well socially. They read a lot and hate rough sports or games. They have keen observation powers, splendid reasoning and critical ability, and are blessed with deep and powerful mental concentration.

Square

Huh? Believe us, you will identify this type when you see it. Practically everything about the person is either square or angular. The jaw, upper forehead, shoulders, hands… Muscles and bones will be prominent, cheekbones protruding and the nose bridged near the eyes.

Square types thrive on physical activity. If you have noticed, virtually all the athletes in the rugged sports are built this way. These types dream ardently of becoming explorers, soldiers or athletes. They also will be courageous, willing to risk life and limb to protect their loved ones or even strangers. But they prefer to flex their muscles rather than brain.

Fat

Round faces, full-blown cheeks, and wide nostrils, usually with double chin? They fall under fat category.

They are friendly, perfectly at ease with the physical appearance and rolling along gracefully. Of course, they love good food. Well proportioned but small BODY

They are concentrated bundles of energy and audacity. They usually bluster their way through opposition and seem to have no fear of anyone or anything. Very ambitious too.

Thin and short

They are shy and rather reticent. Very modest and get excited only when a momentous thing happens in their lives. Slow to make friends, but once they have learned to like someone, will go all out to maintain that friendship.

Stout and short

They are quite amiable and jovial. But tend to get opinionated if too much attention is paid. Though they are quick-tempered and often snap at people, they are too good-natured to hold grudges for long.

Tall, gangling frame

Much more deliberate in both thought and action, they never seem to hurry. They face life with a smile and hardly ever lose their temper.

Tall and heavy-set

Usually reserved and somewhat clannish. It takes long time for them to break the barriers and get intimate. But once friends they stay that way forever. Moody spells generally outlast their jovial periods.

Short torso and long legs

Skittish and loves life. It is very difficult to tie them down to a dull routine because they always want to be on the go.

Long torso and short legs

Have an excellent sense of humour. They consider setbacks as challenges to their ingenuity. And always bounce back, tearing their obstruction with renewed vigour. They get along very well with people.

Ears

Small ears: It is the mark of refinement and timidity. Very affectionate, this person is often thwarted by his shyness in dealing with people. (The larger the ears, the greater the tendency to coarseness of disposition.)

Position of the ears

Close to the head: Sentimentality and dreaminess are indicated. This person is gentle and quite, although the occasional remarks often have remarkable pungency and show a great deal of thought and consideration.

Upright ears: Courageous and strong, both physical and mentally.

Ears that stand out: Lack of refinement and delicacy. Such a person may be well intentioned but very rarely succeeds in convincing others of this.

Eyes

Black - Sign of great passion and ardour. They are also crafty and artful.

Brown - Gentle and unselfish. But irritable when forced.

Blue -Well liked by others. Go about their work unconcerned with practical demands of life.

Green - Ah, the colour of jealousy. Yes, they tend to be jealous. But has a remarkable ability to judge people.

Grey -According to tradition, mark of poetic temperament and romantic disposition.

Shape: Protruding eyes signify the ability to stay with a piece of work until it is completed and a remarkably good memory for small details. Big round eyes denote boldness. Though not very clever, people will remember them for their strength of character. Eyes set well apart means the person is candid and frank with a simple and uncomplicated approach to problems. If it is close together, cunning and restlessness are indicated. Slanted eyes, again denote craftiness but it is offset by a genuine concern for others.

Eyes

Black - Sign of great passion and ardour. They are also crafty and artful.

Brown - Gentle and unselfish. But irritable when forced.

Blue -Well liked by others. Go about their work unconcerned with practical demands of life.

Green - Ah, the colour of jealousy. Yes, they tend to be jealous. But has a remarkable ability to judge people.

Grey -According to tradition, mark of poetic temperament and romantic disposition.

Shape: Protruding eyes signify the ability to stay with a piece of work until it is completed and a remarkably good memory for small details. Big round eyes denote boldness. Though not very clever, people will remember them for their strength of character. Eyes set well apart means the person is candid and frank with a simple and uncomplicated approach to problems. If it is close together, cunning and restlessness are indicated. Slanted eyes, again denote craftiness but it is offset by a genuine concern for others.

Head

Long head: They are very friendly but a bit vain. Loves to be complimented but beware, they can identify flattery. They will stand up for their rights.

Short head: Loves to travel, makes friends easily and lives only for the moment. They are versatile and selfish.

Square head: (Flat at front and back.) Cautious and superstitious. Prefer to follow the trails made by their predecessors rather than embark on a new project or new field. Lacks originality and initiative. Blunt in their speech and manners.

Round head: Reckless and overconfident. They are always restless and want to try new things. They embark on exciting adventures. Quite naturally, hates to be tied down to a job for too long.

High head: Loves mankind and will do everything to spread and promote happiness among his fellowmen. Strongly religious, dignified and sober, they have a strong sense of duty.

High narrow head: Persistent to the extent of being obstinate. They believe strongly in supernatural power and fate.

High broad head: Will stand up for their rights. Though very outspoken, good at keeping secrets. Optimistic and has faith in human nature.

Low broad head: Materialistic and practical. Very little imagination and reasoning ability but they have the ability to forge ahead and overcome obstacles. Tends to be selfish, though.

Nose

Straight, Grecian nose: Mark of polish and artistic taste. Refinement is evident in all the acts of the person. They will not shrink from responsibilities and will go to great lengths to succeed in life. No matter what happens.

The large drooping nose: An object of derision, and perhaps, it is natural that a person with such a nose has reacted to the traditional jests by developing a sarcastic, bitter disposition. Often, however this is merely a camouflage. In reality these people are very friendly.

Pert nose: Vivacious by nature, they amuse people with their antics. Delights in doing things their way, to the point of being obstinate.

The short, snub nose: Poetic temperament and naturally quite bewildered by the practical side of the life. They possess a good sense of humour, but do not ridicule others.

Nostrils

Open nostrils indicate ardour and sensuality, while closed nostrils are a sign of coldness and aloofness

Posture

Droopy shoulders, sagging head and taut muscles indicate pessimism, discouragement, despondency, hatred, arrogance and jealousy. So does the chest which is drawn inward. The person not only looks for the dark and undesirable things in life, but is also disappointed if they do not find them.

If the person stands tall, weight evenly distributed and head held high, the movements springy and buoyant, the person has both physical and mental strength to finish any task undertaken and is quite confident.

Is it true that your body speaks for itself? Well, behavioural studies state that 93 per cent of communication is non-verbal. Dr Sanjoy Mukherjee, a psychologist, explains, “Of this, 55 per cent is communication through body language or physiology, and 38 per cent is tone,” which means only seven per cent of our total communication is verbal.

SHOW WHAT YOU MEAN

You give and respond to thousands of nonverbal messages daily, and you probably don’t even realise it. From the way you hail a taxi to dry-mouth conditions at a corporate presentation, you’re giving away something about yourself, often without knowing why. Especially in the workplace, you unwittingly notice nonverbal behaviour because their details reveal how you relate to people around you, and what you think about yourself. How many times have you sensed a co-worker’s hostility, just by the way she looks at you? Or that your boss is pleased with you by the way she smiled at you in the elevator. Observing people’s gestures brings you closer to the truth. It is more effective than merely listening to the words they say, which can sometimes be a cover-up for their true feelings. Your body can convey thoughts and feelings with uncanny transparency, so it’s important that your body communicates every message correctly. Dr Mukherjee says, “If you want to give an impression, you should make sure that your words match your tone and body language. Otherwise you may convey the message, but your message will lack conviction.”

HOLD THAT GAZE

You can gauge the efficacy of your message by observing the other’s reaction. We all have internal antennae that usually pick up non-verbal signals; but sometimes, it helps to keep a conscious watch, as you may misinterpret covert signals. Here are some common gestures decoded: 

Guilt: Looking down constantly while talking; covering the mouth in the course of conversation.

Shame or submissiveness: Gazing down in the course of a conversation. (Gaze-down reflects guilt, as when distorting the truth or telling a lie. True statements are normally given with a confident, level gaze,

which may be held longer than three seconds.) 

Uncertainty or disagreement: Holding the back of the neck or head with an open palm; or touching an ear, grasping an earlobe, rubbing a cheek or a side of the neck. 

Dominance: Leaning back and placing both hands behind the neck. (This gesture reveals that the opposite person feels no need to show eagerness or attention.) 

Nervousness: Clearing the throat, exhaling audibly, whistling, pinching flesh, fidgeting, covering mouth, jiggling money or keys, tugging ears, or wringing hands. 

Evasion: Tucking the chin strongly into the chest; licking the lips, or swallowing, or a trembling lower lip.

Friendliness and deference: Leaning the head over laterally, towards a shoulder. 

Resignation: The shoulder shrug. Shrug cues may modify, counteract, or contradict verbal remarks. With an affirmative statement like: “Yes, I’m sure”, a lifted shoulder suggests: “I’m not so sure.” Alternatively, it can express uncertainty, as in, “I don’t know why I took this responsibility — I just took it.” Here, it

conveys a feeling of powerlessness regarding the motive. 

Superiority or haughtiness: A looming stance, in which a person sporadically pushes his body up on the balls of his feet.

Disbelief, surprise or exasperation: Raising both eyebrows. 

Disdain or pride: Raising one eyebrow. 

Cooperation: Upper body in sprinter’s position; open hands; sitting on edge of chair; unbuttoning coat. 

Assertiveness: Palms facing down. Often used in conferences, this cue may suggest a patronising attitude or pointed aggression. 

Disgust: A curled upper lip; narrowed eyes; lowered brows; backward head-jerks; sticking the tongue out. 

Anger: Tense jaws; hands on the hips; staring; palm-down in a beating gesture. 

Openness: Open hands, unbuttoned coat.

Defensiveness: Arms crossed, sideways glance, touching or rubbing nose, rubbing eyes, coat buttoned up all the way to the top. 

Insecurity: Pinching flesh, chewing pen, thumb over thumb, biting nails. 

Confidence: Steepled hands, hands held behind the back, stiff back, hands in coat pockets with thumb out, or hands on lapels of coat. 

Frustration: Short breaths, tightly clenched fists, wringing hands, pointing index finger, running hand through hair, rubbing the back of the neck.

Is it true that your body speaks for itself? Well, behavioural studies state that 93 per cent of communication is non-verbal. Dr Sanjoy Mukherjee, a psychologist, explains, “Of this, 55 per cent is communication through body language or physiology, and 38 per cent is tone,” which means only seven per cent of our total communication is verbal.

SHOW WHAT YOU MEAN

You give and respond to thousands of nonverbal messages daily, and you probably don’t even realise it. From the way you hail a taxi to dry-mouth conditions at a corporate presentation, you’re giving away something about yourself, often without knowing why. Especially in the workplace, you unwittingly notice nonverbal behaviour because their details reveal how you relate to people around you, and what you think about yourself. How many times have you sensed a co-worker’s hostility, just by the way she looks at you? Or that your boss is pleased with you by the way she smiled at you in the elevator. Observing people’s gestures brings you closer to the truth. It is more effective than merely listening to the words they say, which can sometimes be a cover-up for their true feelings. Your body can convey thoughts and feelings with uncanny transparency, so it’s important that your body communicates every message correctly. Dr Mukherjee says, “If you want to give an impression, you should make sure that your words match your tone and body language. Otherwise you may convey the message, but your message will lack conviction.”

HOLD THAT GAZE

You can gauge the efficacy of your message by observing the other’s reaction. We all have internal antennae that usually pick up non-verbal signals; but sometimes, it helps to keep a conscious watch, as you may misinterpret covert signals. Here are some common gestures decoded: 

Guilt: Looking down constantly while talking; covering the mouth in the course of conversation.

Shame or submissiveness: Gazing down in the course of a conversation. (Gaze-down reflects guilt, as when distorting the truth or telling a lie. True statements are normally given with a confident, level gaze,

which may be held longer than three seconds.)

Uncertainty or disagreement: Holding the back of the neck or head with an open palm; or touching an ear, grasping an earlobe, rubbing a cheek or a side of the neck.

Dominance: Leaning back and placing both hands behind the neck. (This gesture reveals that the opposite person feels no need to show eagerness or attention.)

Nervousness: Clearing the throat, exhaling audibly, whistling, pinching flesh, fidgeting, covering mouth, jiggling money or keys, tugging ears, or wringing hands.

Evasion: Tucking the chin strongly into the chest; licking the lips, or swallowing, or a trembling lower lip.

Friendliness and deference: Leaning the head over laterally, towards a shoulder.

Resignation: The shoulder shrug. Shrug cues may modify, counteract, or contradict verbal remarks. With an affirmative statement like: “Yes, I’m sure”, a lifted shoulder suggests: “I’m not so sure.” Alternatively, it can express uncertainty, as in, “I don’t know why I took this responsibility — I just took it.” Here, it

conveys a feeling of powerlessness regarding the motive.

Superiority or haughtiness: A looming stance, in which a person sporadically pushes his body up on the balls of his feet.

Disbelief, surprise or exasperation: Raising both eyebrows.

Disdain or pride: Raising one eyebrow.

Cooperation: Upper body in sprinter’s position; open hands; sitting on edge of chair; unbuttoning coat.

Assertiveness: Palms facing down. Often used in conferences, this cue may suggest a patronising attitude or pointed aggression.

Disgust: A curled upper lip; narrowed eyes; lowered brows; backward head-jerks; sticking the tongue out.

Anger: Tense jaws; hands on the hips; staring; palm-down in a beating gesture.

Openness: Open hands, unbuttoned coat.

Defensiveness: Arms crossed, sideways glance, touching or rubbing nose, rubbing eyes, coat buttoned up all the way to the top.

Insecurity: Pinching flesh, chewing pen, thumb over thumb, biting nails.

Confidence: Steepled hands, hands held behind the back, stiff back, hands in coat pockets with thumb out, or hands on lapels of coat.

Frustration: Short breaths, tightly clenched fists, wringing hands, pointing index finger, running hand through hair, rubbing the back of the neck. 

Beating the "What-if" ?

Do you find that a lot of your negative thoughts begin with the words "What-if?" Does one anxious thought lead to another and another - only to become a negative spiral of worry? When this happens, you're probably using what-if thinking. 

WHAT IS "WHAT-IF" THINKING? 

What-if thinking occurs when you make negative predictions about the future, usually starting with the words "What if?" Most of us can relate to Juan's story of what-if thinking. Juan is running a few minutes late to work. The first thought that pops into his head is: "What if I'm late for my nine o' clock meeting?" 

But his thoughts don't stop there. 

His negative thoughts start snowballing. "What if I walk in late and everyone looks at me? What if I get nervous, start sweating, and feel embarrassed? What if my boss notices I can't handle it and I lose my job? What if I can't afford to feed my family?" 

His body responds with a host of symptoms - his heart races, it's tough to breathe, and there's a knot in his stomach the size of Texas. 

As you can see, when you use what-if thinking, one negative prediction usually leads to another, and another, and another. This negative chain has a snowball effect that leads to intense feelings of anxiety, loss of control, and physical symptoms. 

WHAT YOU CAN DO 

Studies show that you have the power to change your thoughts. When you change your thoughts, you create biochemical changes in your brain that affect how your body and mind feel and react. In other words, change your thoughts and you change your reality! 

How do you change your what-if thoughts? You do this by using the three "R"s - Recognize, Replace, and Reinforce. 

1) RECOGNIZE. Keep a small notepad with you. Each time you notice yourself thinking a what-if thought, write it down. Writing things down helps you to slow down and expose habitual negative thoughts to the light of day. If you don't take the time to write down your what-if thoughts, it's easy to miss them because you are so used to them. 

The Onion Technique. 

The following technique can help you peel off layer after layer of negative thoughts and reach the core negative belief. I call it the Onion Technique because it's like peeling off layer after layer of an onion until you reach the core. Here's how it works. When you are in a fairly relaxed mood, take out your notepad and open it up to the first what-if thought. Read the thought and then ask yourself: "And what if that did happen? Then what would happen?" Write down your answer. Repeat this process of digging deeper several times, each time asking "And what if that did happen? Then what would happen?" and writing down your answer. 

After several layers you will reach your core belief - the belief that is at the root of your fears. In Juan's case he might reach this core belief: "If I can't feed my family, my wife and kids will be disappointed in me. They'll leave me and I'll be all alone." His real fear - what is driving his what-if thoughts - is his fear of being rejected, unloved, and all alone if he disappoints the people he loves. That's the belief that Juan needs to replace in order to beat the what-if blues. His worry about arriving a few minutes late to the meeting will fade once he addresses this core issue. 

2) REPLACE. Once you've pinpointed the core negative belief, decide what your new belief will be. Adjust the old belief so that it promotes your well being and reflects the reality you want to create. When creating your new belief, make sure to: 

-- use the present tense 

-- use "I statements" 

-- focus on what you want (not what you don't want) 

In Juan's case, here are several new beliefs he may want to use to replace the unhealthy belief: 

-- "I am worthy of love, even when I disappoint others." 

-- "I am loved for who I am, not how much I earn. I love my family and we will get through life's challenges together." 

-- "Since I am human, I will disappoint the people I love occasionally. I can be imperfect and still receive love." 

When you notice yourself using a what-if thought, stop it in its tracks. It may help to visualize the word "No" or "Stop" in big red letters in your mind. This action interrupts the thought. Then immediately change your focus by replacing the what-if thought with the new, healthier thought you created. 

3) REINFORCE. Once you have chosen your new belief, reinforce it several times a day. Say the new belief with feeling. Believe that it is true, even if only for a moment. Think it. Say it aloud. Write it down. You can even record yourself saying the belief for several minutes and then play it back every night just as you're drifting off to sleep. Just like any other habit, the more you practice, the sooner it will become second nature to you. 

Making the new belief a part of your life takes time and consistent practice, but the results are worth it. You chase away the what-if blues and the physical symptoms that go along with it. And even better, you change the way you look at life! 

you must know this

Be strong enough to face the world each day

Be weak enough to know you can not do everything alone

Be generous to those who need your help

Be frugal with what you need yourself

Be wise enough to know that you do not know everything

Be foolish enough to believe in miracles

Be willing to share your joys.

Be willing  to share the sorrows of others.

Be a leader when you see a path of others have missed

Be a follower when you are shrouded in the midst of  certainly

Be the first to congratulate an opponent who succeeds.

Be the lase to criticize a colleaque who fails.

Be sure where your next step will fall, so that you will not stumble

Be sure of  your final destination , in case you are going to the wring way.

Be loving  to those who love you

Be loving to those who do not love you , and they may change.

Above all, be yourself

Are You Two Faced?

When you look at a face, first draw an imaginary vertical line down the center of the face from the forehead to the chin. Notice the difference in the two sides of the face. Are you two-faced? Yes, you are, everyone is, literally. 

The left side of the brain controls the right side of the face/body. So the right side of the face will show your logical, intellect, thinking, your computer, your public, professional side. The right side of the brain controls the left side of the face/body. So the left side of your face displays your emotions, imagination, dreams, intuition, your personal side. This is the side you keep to yourself. 

The asymmetric face shows that a person can have one personality style in their personal life (left side), and a different style in their professional life (right side). 

You can use this to find out where a person's stress is. When a person is under too much stress the iris is pulled up. Determine which eye it is? 

Anger- A key to success

Next time you get angry, be happy that you have a wonderful key to success.

Without disconnecting the feelings, just start probing your anger.

Try to clearly identify the target of your anger. It may be a person or group of persons.

If your anger aims at a non human object, your probe will become more interesting.

Remember only sensitive people get angry and your getting angry shows that you have not lost your sensitivity.

The nature of your anger will give an idea of your sensitivity domain.

Once I scolded one of my colleagues in strong terms. To my surprise he didn't get angry with me. When the same person was 

scolded very mildly by another colleague, he was very angry with him. Reason? He believed that I was his true well-wisher and 

would never be his competitor in any of his progress. The other colleague was viewed differently.

Your anger will give an idea of your interests related to your sensitivity domain and its relation with the prospective victims of 

your anger.

Non human victims of your anger will give a better idea of your sensitivity domain interests.

Again your probing must find the time value of your anger.

When a person inadvertently dashes against you while walking, you may get angry

for few seconds and forget it even if you do not get an apology.

If you think that it was a wanton act of insult, the time value will increase depending on the perceived magnitude of insult.

Coming back to your sensitivity domain interests [SDI], they have the answers to ever interesting question of what you live for.

If you are not angry, this probe will not yield rich results.

If you analyse your SDI, you will experience an interesting exercise of segregating induced interests from interests arising out of 

your natural needs.

Remember you are your king to your natural interests and slave to your induced interests.

In other words your probing of your anger will reveal king/slave dimensions in your personality.

If your anger is directly related to the induced interests, you are fighting for other man's [or woman's] success.

Once you have the courage to stop it, the energy for your success gets instantaneous increase.

Next time you get angry, be happy.

AND HAVE A GOOD LIFE

ATTACK ON AMERICA? 

Our life experiences have taught us that we are all born with an ego. Fear, hate, anger, guilt, separation, false love are some of the components of our ego thought system. 

Does the ego have a purpose? The answer is, of course, yes! But the ego's purpose is twofold: one seems to be more visible, and we think it is easy to handle, and to understand, the other is the opposite. 

For something to be visible, easy to handle, and to understand, it must be above all, something we are familiar with. Something our mind has been trained to accept at first sight. Consequently, some of the most visible purposes of the ego is to make us feel different, separate and, above all, to make us suffer, to feel pain and anger. 

WHAT ABOUT THE INVISIBLE PURPOSE OF THE EGO? 

The events that terrorized America, on Tuesday, September 11, 2001, present us with a great opportunity to answer this question. The two towers that were destroyed in New York City symbolize the great power and tremendous strength of the peoples of the world, not the least of which are the American people. They were named "twin towers." The word "twin" suggests equality, connectedness, and interrelatedness. The site was named World Trade Center. It could have been named, for instance, American Plaza, or New York Square. But is was not because the name had to encompass the whole earth, the whole globe. Furthermore, the word "trade," means to exchange commodities, and also mutual communication. 

WHAT WAS EXCHANGED, AND HOW? AND WHAT WAS THAT COMMUNICATION? 

Let's examine some of the events, and the role cellular phones play in modern life. Allow me to quote part of a message left on a telephone answering machine by one of the heroes. His message was a quiet and peaceful good-bye to his family, including his mother. His last sentence was: "... and have a good life." 

As you read this sentence, you may cry. But let that be a cry of thanks, as you acknowledge receiving energies of love, courage, strength and, above all, a new form of understanding how the universe works, or better yet, how you can make the universe work. YOU GIVE AND YOU RECEIVE. 

Was the ego in charge of this man's thoughts? Absolutely not. Had his message come from his ego thought system, it could have been something like this: " Mom, Mom. I'm going to die. I do not want to go yet. I'm afraid. I'm afraid..." 

What happens when you allow the ego to get out of the way? Your Higher Self (A Higher Intelligence) takes over. You are not separate from your Higher Self, neither are you alone: this is a fact, whether you believe it or not. This is science and spirituality which has nothing to do with religion. Your Higher Self lets you release fear, hate, anger, guilt, etc., and reverses them to true love, hope, courage and, above all, a new understanding of who you are, and why you are here now. This is what is conveyed in this message, as well as other messages given by some of the heroes before they disposed of their bodies. This was the exchange of commodities, and mutual communication. A part of your thought system gives you fear, hate, guilt, etc., the other reverses them. 

Thoughts are sent to you to see how you handle them. The choice is yours. You have free will. Thoughts, like words, are not neutral: they have consequences. Your actions come from your thoughts. Hate, for instance, may lead to killing. If you want to stop killing, you have to let go of hate. No one can do this for you, but yourself. 

There was a tremendous amount of energy of love and courage pouring on earth before, during, and after the events of September 11. The thousands of people that gave their lives on the airplanes, the Pentagon and World Trade Center were the means for this communication. They chose, collectively, to do so, not at a conscious level, of course, but at a level that only they can understand now. The event was carefully planned even before the World Trade Center was built. It was planned in a "center." The Compact Edition of the Oxford English Dictionary (1971), explains that a center is "a point to which things tend to be attracted to." It also explains that a center "belongs to the party that holds a position midway between the two extremes." Here was the stage chosen for the extremes of our ego thought system to be reversed. 

More attacks on "centers" were planned, but some did not materialize, at least for the time being. I'm referring to the airplane that crashed in Pennsylvania. No one really knows where it was heading to. But we know that it was the cellular phones in the passengers' hands that saved many lives. One passenger called his wife to let her know that the airplane had been hijacked, only to find out that the World Trade Center had already been hit. So, he chose to fight the hijackers. He called her again to say good-bye, and asked her to take good care of their children. He also said he knew he would not survive the ordeal. He was calm. He was courageous. He, too, sent us the energy of love and courage. But, above all, he showed us that attack/defense can be loving. Now, we know that there was a terrible fight on that airplane before it crashed. Everyone on board perished. But we will never know how many lives were saved on land. 

This is the beginning of the unfolding of the events that will change our way of thinking. These are part of the predictions for the beginning of the millennium. Everyone is involved in this exchange and communication. 

How can we raise above the battle, transcend it, and become aware of the flow of energies that are beneficial to us? Listen! Just listen! Everyone must listen: a soldier, a carpenter, a housewife, a minister, a senator, a fire fighter, a policeman etc., 

There are messages all around you and, above all, within you. Your short life on earth has been meticulously planned so that you learn to listen. The two men that used their cellular phones to call their families to say good-bye are just a small example of the many messages we are constantly receiving. They listened too. 

AMERICA HAS BEEN CHOSEN AS AN IDEAL CENTER FOR THIS INTERNAL REVOLUTION. YOU CAN DO IT! YOU WILL DO IT! 

We are all twins floating in a womb called the universe. 

Buddha, who lived about 500 years before Christ, is believed to have said: 

One may conquer in battle a thousand times a thousand men, yet he is the best of conquerors who conquers himself. 

Time has come for all individuals to conquer themselves. Allow yourself to put down the weapons your ego sends you. Such weapons are called fear, hate, anger, guilt, separation, etc. Stop attacking yourself NOW. Let go of the past. Since the past has gone, and you know nothing about the future, the only time there is, is NOW. Use your time constructively. Allow the energies of true love, courage and understanding to envelope you. This is not difficult. But you must choose to listen. Then, the remembrance of true love will follow.